When I was thinking of TOTAL BAD ASS mums to interview for this part of the blog my dear friend Emma White Turle was at the top of the list. She’s smart, not like street smart but like astrophysics smart, basically a qualified rocket scientist who makes a living making the beautiful people of the world er, more beautiful. She’s a hair and make-up artist to the stars (Michelle Dockery, Maisie Wiliams, Emilia Clarke, Lindsay Lohan and Kaya Scodelario are all clients) as well as being Beauty Editor-at-Large for Schon! Magazine and a Brand Ambassador for Nivea. We met almost 10 years ago exactly on MySpace of all places… I added her because I was moving to London knowing barely a soul and needed friends. She told me later she accepted my request because my profile pic was a Burlesque portrait of me wearing pink maribou pasties and not much else and therefore I looked like good fun. Which naturally I was. The first time we properly hung out she invited me over for dinner which turned to drinks and before I knew it a whole weekend had passed and I had eaten an entire pan of her legendary cottage pie pretty much by myself. The pic above is one of her and her daughter Evie from around that time. Since then we’ve seen each other through marriages and divorces and she’s become the godmother to my daughters. Lately we bond over what it’s like to be stepmums and the dynamics of blended families. I’m not sure where the last 10 years have gone and to be honest I can’t really imagine my life without her. Emma always has a way of seeing life from a different, more beautiful angle and I think she’s one of the most inspiring people I know.
What’s the first important life lesson you remember learning?
That you get what you give.
My mother was a firm believer in that if you did good things, good things would happen to you.
What goes around comes around was spoken many times in our household as we grew up. And I do believe this still to this day. It’s something that I pass on to my daughter and step sons.
How do you think motherhood has most affected the person you are today?
It has made me more tolerant and less selfish. I always wanted to work and be a mother and never understood why people said I couldn’t do both well. Success in this though has meant that I’ve had to be patient, flexible and not get as much sleep as I would actually really like.
Who are your hero’s and why?
My professional hero is Val Garland. She has always been the most inspiring make up artist for me. She is a wonderful woman with an incredible natural talent. Another hero is Valentina Hershkova, the first woman in space. She broke through what is still a male dominated world to do something that she loved.
What is your greatest luxury?
This is hard to answer. My luxuries are many! I love it when we get to escape to La Ferme Saint Simeon in Honfleur just the two of us. I also love the luxury of new cashmere. But it can also be just the luxury of not having to set an alarm in the morning.
What does fearlessness feel like for you?
I try to not feel fear. What do I really have to fear? So fearlessness is my general state of mind. It would be dreadfully sad to have to live a life in fear and I am well aware that I am extraordinarily fortunate in my life, so if I stand by my answer to question 1, I try to never let fear get to me.
Tell me your motto and what it means to you?
My motto, the first thing that came to mind was my old school motto, Festina Lente. This basically means to hurry slowly. My school instilled a strong sense of any of us being able to achieve what we dream if we apply ourselves to it. So this motto has always stuck with me, I suppose I’ve unconsciously stood by it all these years.